Funerals

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I commit to providing the highest standard of care, choice and dignity to those who have suffered or those who are experiencing loss regardless of beliefs, disability, gender, sexuality or ethnic origin. Today, there are many choices for how end of life celebrations are being done.

A funeral can be a sad occasion but it can also be a time for celebration, support, comfort, and reflection where you can begin the process of coming to terms with your loss. A funeral with heart and soul recognizes the importance of the person who has died and is both an honourable final gift and a fitting farewell. It is important leaving those who are bereaved with a sense that people experienced this life in a meaningful way and that they will not be forgotten. Having a true celebration helps people start the healing process!

How this is achieved

  • Each ceremony is individually written and designed to celebrate the life of the person, providing a fitting tribute, focusing on everything that made them special.
  • I will be as involved as you wish and can design and lead the whole ceremony, prepare and read the eulogy, or can support you to deliver your own tribute.
  • If you would like to talk about or plan your own funeral, I can also help with this. It helps family and friends to have a guide to your wishes when the time comes.
  • I am also able to assist you with memorial services, interment services or the scattering of ashes if required.

What is a Funeral Celebrant?

A Funeral Celebrant is a person who is trained and certified to meet the needs of families during their time of loss. A Celebrant serves by providing a funeral service that is personalized to reflect the personality and life-style of the deceased. I have received my training through Certified Celebrants Association of Canada

What Does a Certified Celebrant Offer?

  • A Celebrant offers an alternative to a service provided by a clergy person for those families who are not affiliated with a church or who do not wish to have a traditional funeral service.
  • A Celebrant has been specifically trained to design a service that is completely personal, incorporating those unique stories, traditions, songs and experiences defining the loved one.
  • A Celebrant will meet and chat with family members to share memories, anecdotes and special moments in the loved one’s life. This will also help the Celebrant to learn of the life of the loved one, how they lived their life and the type of person they were. The essence of the service will be based upon the remembrances of the family. Then their story can be told!
  • This Celebrant will also meet with friends or others close to the deceased to gather memories and thoughtful contributions to make the celebration of life whole and complete.
  • A Celebrant will offer suggestions on making the service personal and meaningful such as having a family member or special friend present a tribute or eulogy. Additional suggestions may include the presentation of a memorial DVD video tribute or a musical tribute for example.
  • A Celebrant has resources available for readings, music, ceremonies and personal touches. The Celebrant will consult with the family to help design a service that best reflects and memorialized the life of their loved one.
  • A Celebrant is bound by a Code of Ethics for complete confidentiality in all dealings with the family.

Why Use a Certified Celebrant?

The training for Celebrants seeks to provide comprehensive and sensitive training for people to ensure respect, care and professionalism in offering these services. It is important that a family knows that they are being served by someone who understands the process and is prepared to offer the very best and meaningful life celebration possible.

Why Have a Memorial or Funeral Service?

Personalized memorial or funeral services are meaningful events that help us acknowledge the life transition we experience when someone we love dies. A thoughtful ceremony confirms the significance of our loved one’s life and the relationship we shared.

Loss, grief and sorrow are natural parts of life. A personalized memorial, celebration of life or funeral service helps us receive the support of family, friends and community during this time of transition and release. People often forget that the celebration of life is for the living more so than the person who has passed. It is a natural part of the healing for those left behind.

Why ask a Celebrant to lead a Celebration of Life ceremony (Funeral)?

Individuals who request the services of a Celebrant do so for a variety of reasons:

  • Your family members may practice different religions or define spirituality in a multitude of ways. Many families do not practice a religion at all. That does not mean that having a ritual or a process to recognize this rite of passage should not happen.
  • A deceased loved one may not have been religious, but your family may want the service to reflect the love and significance of the relationships they shared with that person.
  • A Celebration of Life for your deceased loved one may be the most appropriate way to honour him or her.
  • You may want the service held in a specific place that reflects the lifestyle and personality of the person who died. Example venues include: a golf course, a community hall, a University campus auditorium, a favourite restaurant, the family home or some other unique setting. A cemetery can also be a meaningful and natural setting for a personalized interment of your loved one’s cremated body or an earth burial in a casket.
  • Your deceased loved one may not have been actively involved in a religious community at the time of his or her death, but they may have requested specific religious scriptures, prayers or hymns to be included in their service.
  • Those with a life-limiting illness may wish to participate in the planning and design of their own funeral, memorial or celebration of life service.

What will a Celebrant do for me?

As a Celebrant, I will meet with you in your own home OR at your chosen location. This meeting generally takes several hours, depending on how many people choose to participate in sharing their stories and insights. I will also meet separately with other friends or family if that is needed or desired. During this time, as the Celebrant, I will explore ways of making the service as meaningful and as personalized as possible. Participation by family and community is always encouraged. Doing this well becomes part of the healing process so it is so critical that everyone feels that they can participate if they choose.

Once all of the elements of the service are discussed and decided upon, I will write an appropriate and customized service to weave the tapestry of stories to share in celebration of this special life. In this way, I can create a smooth-flowing, beautifully crafted tribute for your loved one that is personal, humorous, touching and genuine. I put a great deal of time and care into each ceremony to ensure that it meets the highest of standards of care.

As necessary, I can assist or offer guidance to various speakers who may have been asked to participate before the event and oversee the ceremony’s design and facilitation.

During the event, as Celebrant, I will facilitate and guide the proceedings, make any necessary announcements, as well as leading individuals through any rituals within the ceremony. I connect and work with the Funeral home also, respecting their processes and traditions.

A Celebrant works with individuals on an at-need basis. Please ensure that you determine the availability of a Celebrant before you confirm the date and time of the service.